You've expressed the fact that you don't want to send this drive out to a pro and your willing to try some DIY methods. Be aware you can further damage the drive.
If the bios does not detect the drive, have you checked your SATA cabling.
(MHDD is a free download on the homepage here, i would try that for detecting
the drive. F2 i believe is the command to detect.)
Power Connections (double check if you used any power taps or splitters - can you eliminate those and go direct to the factory power supply connections) Is your Power supply hot or making any noises... hisses or squeals? (If so move to a known good PS)
Do you have access to a multimeter?
Do you have access to any other computers to possibly check this drive in also?
Have you taken the PCB off of the drive yet to inspect?
( Can you upload pictures to here yet? the higher quality pictures the better)
If you decide to remove the PCB ensure that your grounded - don't want any discharge frying the board.
WD Diags can tell you some basic information, If you want to download that its free.
(
http://support.wdc.com/product/download ... =3&lang=en ) Windows version
(
http://support.wdc.com/product/download ... 30&lang=en ) Dos Bootable CD that you can burn.
Label your GOOD drive and your BAD Drive somehow with a marker so you dont get confused working with them. This is a good idea just so you don't ever get confused what one is being plugged in. ( I put a small DOT on the top case and one on the PCB )
As Vulcan said you can clean the connections with some Isoproply Alcohol if you would like.
(Clean any dust or dirt on the circuit board by dipping cotton swabs into rubbing alcohol and gently cleaning the surface of the circuit board. Moisten the swab, but don't soak it)
Be sure that the entire board is dry before re-attaching it.
Let us know if anything works out.